Are you a priority in your life?


Reader, if you need someone to give your permission to prioritize you, read this

This week's #ShowUpPositive Spark is GIVING, starting with you.

It's Thanksgiving week in the US, so I've seen many articles about giving. However, I noticed that they are all focused externally.

But you and I know, Reader, that in order to give to others, your own cup can't be empty.

That is why you need to prioritize yourself this week. I have a few ideas to encourage and inspire you.

  • Get outside and clear your head daily. Nature is restorative. Even the walk to the mailbox counts if you focus on breathing the fresh air and noticing the scenery.
  • Listen to your body and give it what it needs. If you need to rest, do it. If a soak in the tub to decompress sounds heavenly, go for it.
  • Anticipate things that drain your energy and mentally prepare to navigate them without allowing them to have more energy and focus than they deserve.
  • Give yourself empathy and forgiveness. If you lose your temper, make a mistake, etc., refuse to allow your inner critic to bully you about being imperfect because humaning imperfectly is something we all do.
  • Be giving to others. Once your cup is no longer empty, you can start giving to others, and you will actually notice that you receive joy and fulfillment in return.

Reader giving feels like being drained by a vampire when you are running on empty, so be sure you prioritize your own well-being each day, and the well within you will never run dry.

Wishing you a restorative start to the giving season,

🥰 Reader, accelerate success🥰




Rita Ernst, Positivity Influencer

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