Reader, I bet you can relate to Paula's story. Paula is a highly educated professional.
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She works in an organization filled with experts who frequently lack emotional intelligence and leadership skills.
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She's feeling frustrated because the managers above her only recognize her leadership by giving her more tasks.
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In her recent annual review, she received only the typical increase, despite the volume of extra work she had taken on.
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Her dissatisfaction is stealing her joy, and she's wondering how much longer she wants to stay.
Reader, I have been Paula at the end of every company I left. When you look for happiness outside of yourself, you are always chasing the next thing. I've taken this lesson to heart and made it the heart of my Star Treatmentπ«5-point System. Honor Your Inner StarMake no mistake about it, in the above story, Paula knows she is a rock star for her employer. She has ego about her ability to deliver that demands to be seen, appreciated, and rewarded. She is happy to take center stage and "front the band," but eventually she will settle for no less than being treated like the star she is. Too often, the message stars like Paula receive is to continue delivering their stellar performance, but then to be humble and not seek recognition and rewards. I say, "Poppycock!" Reader, when you hear it so plainly called out like that, it is clearly nonsense. In 2022 I challenged the notion that culture required action from the top of the organization and spread my message of empowerment to individuals at every level. In 2025, I'm challenging the idea that workplace stars are not allowed to demand recognition and value as the company reaps the benefits of their exceptional performance. Moreover, I aim to amplify star power throughout organizations through intentional conversations and behaviors that encourage everyone to bring their best selves daily. Star Treatmentπ« transforms workplace culture by helping organizations recognize and nurture the unique strengths and gifts each employee brings in service of the whole, fostering engagement, loyalty, accountability, and collaborative excellence. Help me ignite the revolution.Reader, I'm asking for your help with one or more of the following:
β The 5-point System applies the latest insights from neuroscience and psychology to deliver: LONG-TERM RETENTION: Retain the best people without the added cost of perks. COST SAVINGS: Retain institutional knowledge and reduce the expense of talent replacement. PERFORMANCE: Full discretionary effort from employees and resilience in the face of any challenge.
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