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Is anxiety contageous?
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Reader do you ever get that sinking, heavy, fluttery feeling in your stomach? It's July 13th, my oldest daughter's 16th birthday. She just passed her written drivers test and now we are headed to Florida with her former gymnastics coach and my good friend, Rebecca. Tomorrow morning we must be at the New College in Sarasota by 1PM to drop my daughter at her two week Duke Tip marine biology program. We stop in Atlanta for some fun, then continue to the Georgia/Florida border to spend the night. All is great. We rise early, knowing traffic will be awful for the final 5 hours. Having driven the prior day, I am trashed and grateful that Rebecca is awake and alert. With each passing hour, the tension in the car grows. In Tampa we stop at a favorite tacqueria from a couple of years prior when we all traveled there for a gymnastics meet. As Rebecca and I stand in line to order the food she says, "I'm so happy to be out of the car. Her anxiety is contagious. I don't know how much more I can handle." I think to myself, "Wow. Is that what is making me so tired and stressed?" Fast forward to the present. This Sunday we move our youngest daughter into her Freshman dorm room. For the past three weeks Amazon has been at our house daily and the basement is filling with a wide array of items she has hand selected to make her first residence outside our home her own. The retail therapy seems to help to alleviate her high anxiety about this big life event. As I sent her off to work today with a grilled cheese on sourdough and a clam shell of raspberries, I felt that punch in the gut. I am ready for my last chick-a-dee to soar, and yet the knowledge that these small moments are fleeting makes me sad. Reader the truth is transitions don't have to be bad to be hard. Glennon Doyle, one of my favorite authors, wrote that grief is the receipt for love. And it is the grief that makes transitions hard. The anxiety of watching the end of the caterpillar before we get to see the extraordinary butterfly emerge. So this reminder is for both of us Reader. The butterfly is coming. But first, we have to let go of the old and embrace the transition. The BEST Review of Show Up Positive Ever
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Rita Ernst, Positivity Influencer
My weekly emails are for you if you want a transformational SHOT OF POSITIVITY that makes you think, gets you laughing, and sparks a positive change. Start each week inspired.
Reader I'm not a big Marvel fan, but this line from the Toby Maguire Spiderman movie has stuck in my brain: "With great power comes great responsibility." Last Thursday I taught my Human Operating System model to a group of nonprofit leaders. The punchline is simple: You have tremendous power and influence over the results you get. Much of your thinking is habitual and keeps you stuck You can intentionally disrupt this habitual thinking You can replace your self-limiting thought with an...
Reader, procrastinating is the sneaky play of your avoider. Your avoider uses a variety of stories to trick you into inaction: I don't want to do that thing It can wait till later Maybe somebody else will take will take care of it I'm not ready yet I can't do it well enough so I might as well not try And although there's truth in each story, it's only a half truth. The other half of the story is: If I get this done now I will get it off of my mind The sooner this is done the sooner I can...
Reader, if you want to grow do this... I used to teach gymnastics. I would watch girls work so hard to learn a new skill only to have their overall performance decline at the meet despite nailing the new skill. In sports this is known as the a temporary dip. I told them the one and only sports psychology truth I knew: the dip is expected; perseverance is the key. Now I find myself in that same situation. I started playing pickleball in March and I am just starting to feel like I can hold my...