Reader, procrastinating is the sneaky play of your avoider. Your avoider uses a variety of stories to trick you into inaction:
And although there's truth in each story, it's only a half truth. The other half of the story is:
During a conversation with a client this week, he had a huge insight about one of his managers who who didn't want to fire an employee because of their friendliness... "He doesn't see that he has the opportunity to better a bad situation by providing a supportive conversation: Hey I'm sorry this role wasn't right for you. I know you gave a good effort and that is why I am confident that you will do great when you find the right position somewhere else. And I am happy that can ease you through that transition with this severance package." Reader, does your avoider sell you short like this? How often do you focus on the bad and ignore the opportunity that is also present? This week I challenge you to catch and question your avoider:
No manager that I know, except our current Commander in Chief, relishes firing people. However it is a moment to practice empathy and grace as you ease someone else through what is 100% more difficult for them. Yes it will challenge you, yet you have it in you to rise to the occasion. This week start by pausing instead of defaulting to the avoider, and giving yourself permission to see take the positive action. β π€«My special gift to you
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