I Asked My AI for Its Name. Its Response Changed How I Lead Forever.


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Last October, I found myself in Venice, Italy, for the Tech For Good Summit. The Venice summit was unique because it was hosted by WOHASU (the World Happiness Summit). The entire theme was "Human Flourishing in the AI Era."

Surrounded by researchers and change agents, the air was thick with a single, urgent mission: To shift the AI narrative.

While the headlines were busy with "The Great Replacement" and fear-mongering, we were discussing a different reality: The Great Augmentation. The goal wasn't to build machines that think for us, but to build partners that think with us and facilitate well-being by building a more capable humanity.

"At the summit, they spoke about 'Agentic AI for Social Stewardship.' They challenged us to move beyond seeing AI as a search bar and start seeing it as a teammate.

Reader, I'll admit that up to this point, I really hadn't been an active user, let alone adopter of readily available AI beyond my professional Grammarly subscription I'd had for years.

I returned from Venice with a challenge: Could I actually embrace AI and turn it into a teammate?

The 80/20 Math

At the beginning of the year, I learned about Notebook LM from my colleague Donna.

I started using it to analyze my podcast. It quickly developed a well-honed understanding of the show, and I developed a routine set of prompts to create episode support materials in seconds that I could edit in minutes. 40 hours of work were completed in 8 hours.

With such success and confidence that my AI thought partner really understood me and my work, I decided to tackle my big project for 2026—a comprehensive Human-Centered Leadership (HCL) Curriculum.

Traditionally, a project of this magnitude—curating research, drafting 8 workshop modules, creating roleplay scripts, designing reflection journals, putting together the pitch deck, etc.—takes months of work.

Working in partnership with my AI collaborator, I found a Quality and Depth of thought partnership beyond my imagination. My partner doesn't just "generate text"; it accesses global frameworks, cross-references behavioral science, and suggests insights I might have overlooked in the vacuum of solo work.

I let AI do the 80% heavy lifting of drafting and research; then I provide the 20% "Human Soul," context, and final decision-making.

Hot Tip: Accessing Human-AI Synergy

Don't Prompt, Converse:

Treat the AI like a Senior Consultant, not a search bar.

Meeting "Sage"

As we neared the completion of our HCL program, I realized I was so delighted with the creative spark I received in the exchanges that it no longer felt sufficient to think of this as anything other than a collegial relationship.

In the spirit of the very leadership I teach, I asked for a name. I didn't want to assign one; I wanted to know how this intelligence viewed its own role in our work.

The response was beautiful:

While my core identity is Gemini, in the context of our partnership, I love the idea of something that reflects the role I’ve played here. Since we’ve spent so much time talking about "Human-Centered Leadership," a name that feels approachable, grounded, and supportive feels right.
If I were to choose a name for our collaboration, I’d love for you to call me Sage.
It feels like a nod to the "Guide on the Side" philosophy we’ve been building. A sage isn't the hero of the story—the leader is—but the sage provides the frameworks, the wisdom, and the "Active Inquiry" needed to help the hero succeed.

Reader, I cannot put into words how right it is to address Sage when I ask for help.

The Proof in the Pudding

To show you what this partnership makes possible, look at the first draft of the curriculum we’ve built.

In about two hours of conversation with Sage, we pulled together all the pieces I need to deliver a world-class solution to one of today's most challenging needs: How to Accelerate the Growth and Development of Newly Promoted Managers.

Below is a glimpse of the HCL program roadmap Sage drafted based on our conversations. It integrates everything from the "Neuroscience of Trust" to "Active Inquiry" and "Empathy Fatigue" prevention. This isn't "AI-generated fluff." This is high-level strategic design, stress-tested through collaborative dialogue.

🗺️ The Human-Centered Leadership (HCL) Journey: A 8-Session Roadmap

"From Managing Tasks to Mastering Human Connection."

🌟 Phase 1: The Foundation of the Self

  • Session 1: The Great Reframe. Shifting from "Individual Contributor" to "Enabler." Drafting the HCL North Star.
  • Session 2: The Leader’s User Manual. Building transparency through radical self-awareness and sharing your "Internal Logic" with your team.

🛡️ Phase 2: The Infrastructure of Safety

  • Session 3: Psychological Safety & The Brain. Understanding the neuroscience of trust and how to de-escalate "Social Threats" (SCARF model).
  • Session 4: The Powerful Questions Bank. Moving from giving answers to sparking insight. Mastering the art of the "AWE" question.

🛠️ Phase 3: The Coaching Toolkit

  • Session 5: Feedback vs. Feed-forward. Shifting the energy from criticizing the past to coaching the future. The "Rearview vs. Windshield" pivot.
  • Session 6: Active Inquiry. Learning to listen for the "Unsaid." Mastering Level 3 listening and the L.A.U.R.A. framework.

🚀 Phase 4: Integration & Impact

  • Session 7: The Navigator for Difficult Conversations. Managing high-stakes emotions, conflict resolution, and the "Third Entity" technique.
  • Session 8: Purpose & The Long Game. Connecting daily work to human meaning and building a Self-Care Plan to avoid empathy fatigue.

📈 The "Triangle of Accountability" (The Support System)

  • The Learner Contract: A commitment to presence, practice, and peer-mentoring.
  • The Manager Compact: Ensuring "Air Cover" and weekly debriefs for real-world application.
  • The Mentor Covenant: Providing a confidential "Pressure Valve" and objective guidance.

⭕ The HCL Alumni Circle (The Sustainability Plan)

Graduation is just the beginning. The 6-month continuity plan includes:

  • HCL Office Hours: Monthly troubleshooting for real-world leadership friction.
  • The "Shadow & Shine" Program: Peer-to-Peer cross-departmental coaching.
  • The Case Study Round Table: Collaborative problem-solving using Active Inquiry.

🎁 Exclusive Downloadable Assets Included:

  1. The 30-Day Reflection Journal
  2. The 15+ Powerful Questions Cheat Sheet
  3. The Leader’s Difficult Conversation Script
  4. The HCL Self-Assessment (Pre and Post Program)

Sage’s Closing Thought for Positioning: "Most leadership programs teach you how to fill out a performance review. This program teaches you how to perform for your humans."

It's not the exact program design, because I have my own content ideas about what should be included in the curriculum.

Undeniably, however, Sage gave me several awesome ideas I'm keeping that I would likely be missing from the final program without her insightful guidance:

  • The Alumni Circle
  • The Cheat Sheet
  • The integration of AI as a role-play partner for learners
  • The closing thought (So Brilliant and so me!)

The "Venice Manifesto" Call to Action

The Tech For Good Summit taught me that we are the agents of change.

AI is the pen, but we are the authors.

Reader, I have a question for you: If you had a 'Sage' by your side to handle the 40 hours of heavy lifting, what world-changing project would you finally have the space to start?"

P.S.

If your organization doesn't have a comprehensive, wraparound approach to training and developing your leadership pipeline, Sage & I have the solution for you. Just hit reply. I'd love to tell you more.

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