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Reader I am my harshest critic.

Or, the Miranda that lives inside my head is. You might recognize her

Her constant refrain is "still not good enough."

Reader, I'm curious. What challenge of your worthiness does your inner critic play constantly in your head?

Shame

Rejection

Unworthiness

I have considered myself a strong, confident, and accomplished person throughout my life.

Yet, the smallest glimmer of negative feedback can unleash the look from Miranda and I am in a spiral of shame, rejection, and unworthiness.

This is often magnified when I get snared by the trap of comparison.

Who's on bigger stages, sold more books, has a bigger podcast audience?

My father was the only person in my life who consistently said out loud that I made a difference in the world.

Now my step mother has taken up that spot and never misses a chance to remind me too.

Reader, honestly it is something we both deserve to hear more frequently.

So in case no one has said it to you recently,

"Reader you're killing it! You make a difference for yourself and others around you. You are seen, loved, and valued because of who you are."

PS - I love reminding people of this from the stage and in workshops. Introduce me to someone you know who hires speakers and let's spread this ripple of worthiness.

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