Reader, this gets a little personal. Over the winter, I started playing pickleball. I love it! I'm having so much fun. Summer is now officially here with a daily heat index topping 100 this past week. In past years, I have avoided being outside in such dreadful heat. This year, I'm taking two or more showers a day to cool off and wash away the sweat. Yes, I'm a prolific sweater. One of those people who always looks like they just ran a marathon after any exertion in the sun. I could choose to...
7 days ago • 2 min read
Reader, last week I got to do what I love twice! I delivered talks at two conferences — one in Texas and one in Louisville. I know that interactive learning is the best, so my presentations include some type of "pair and share" element whenever possible. In Texas, I invited the participants to reflect on their happiest and least happy job experiences, then share the stories with their partners. Here was the punchline from the debrief: Was the experience you shared about compensation, tasks,...
14 days ago • 2 min read
Reader, I bet you can relate to Paula's story. Paula is a highly educated professional. She works in an organization filled with experts who frequently lack emotional intelligence and leadership skills. She's feeling frustrated because the managers above her only recognize her leadership by giving her more tasks. In her recent annual review, she received only the typical increase, despite the volume of extra work she had taken on. Her dissatisfaction is stealing her joy, and she's wondering...
21 days ago • 3 min read
Reader, you're here! Thanks for opening this email. In 2022 I published my book, Show Up Positive. It's a simple playbook to increase the positive experiences in your life by choosing daily actions that foster positive behaviors in the world around you. It is a battle plan to feed the good wolf* inside you. *A grandfather describes to his grandson a battle between two wolves within oneself. In this metaphor for inner conflict, one wolf is kind and good, the other is mean and bad. The boy...
28 days ago • 2 min read
Reader, stop pushing the boulder. My client: "The two new city managers are doing a good job of holding people accountable. I'm not sure some of the team members like it. We might lose a few, but they've got to take swift action to get the revenue up." Me: "You know that's the hard way. Managers don't want to be babysitters. This isn't generating job satisfaction for them or their staff. But there is an easier way that realigns, reengages, and recommits the team to working together."...
about 1 month ago • 2 min read
Reader, have you ever felt so seen that it made you cry? My youngest daughter is a high school senior. We've done all the things--senior pictures, senior prom, college decision. Last Friday was Senior Luncheon, a tradition where parents and students gather to hear school faculty members speak about the students. Faculty members select the students for whom they speak. Sports coaches often spoke for the members of the team they coach. Extra-curricular and specialty subject teachers also choose...
about 1 month ago • 2 min read
Reader I bet you can relate to this one. It's Wednesday morning pickleball in my neighborhood. There are only four of us, and the other three are seasoned players. My internal narrative about not being good enough and letting my partner down starts playing. I focus on my breathing and remind myself to play my game: stay present, accept your errors, celebrate others, have fun. We are rotating through the same partner pairings. Everyone is making their fair share of missed shots. I'm working on...
about 2 months ago • 3 min read
Reader did you watch the Kentucy Derby? Friday is a bit of a holiday in Louisville, so I spent part of the day with my hands in the soil of my front flower garden. I March I spent a day clearing out dead leaves and weeds, as my spring bulbs started pushing through the ground. I also added a new layer of mulch. It has been a glorious bed of blooms throughout April. Yet despite the deep cover of mulch, weeds were showing up: wild violets, dandelions, clover, wild strawberry, maple seedlings,...
about 2 months ago • 2 min read
Reader warning, this might be TMI This weekend, I gave in to my chocolate craving and bought a slice of "death by chocolate" cake. Four layers of moist chocolate cake are separated by luscious chocolate frosting, almost the consistency of ganache. It is so decadent, I'll need a week to eat it all. I am out running from meeting to meeting with no time for lunch, so I grabbed a plastic spoon on my way out of the store and treat myself to several bites. About 90 minutes later, the gurgling in my...
2 months ago • 2 min read